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2018 Reading Books Challenge

Can you suggest me that one book which will drastically change my life and I don’t have to read any other books ?” – One of my friend asked me.

Well, at that moment, I was confused. Didn’t know which book to suggest because there are so many books that has changed the life of so many people.

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Six ways to make people like you

  1. Become genuinely interested in another people.

Do this and you will be welcome anywhere

 

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You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Most of us have a feeling that other should get interested in us, we have to be the center of attraction and as people are lacking to understand the fact, they are seeking happiness. They feel loneliness. If you really do want to make friends start to like you then, be interested in them and they will surely start to be interested in you. Don’t try to make them like you, just like them and they will like you.

 

Remember that people are not interested in you. People are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves.

  1. Smile

A simple way to make a good first impression

 

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Expression’s one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back. Just imagine someone with the latest trend fashion but has not a good expression. How do you feel? There is more information in a smile than a frown. When you see someone, known or unknown, just give a smile and the smile comes back. Your smile is the measure of your goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.

 

Remember that you must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.

  1. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language

One of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will is by remembering names and making people feel important. How will you feel when someone with whom you once meet a long ago suddenly met you and he still remembers your name?

 

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When you meet someone for the first time, always ask for the name and keep it in mind. A name is one of the most important parts of human life. People love their name and they even love more when some pronounce it. It makes them the sense of important.

 

Remember that if you don’t do this, you are headed for trouble.

  1. Be a good listener. Encourages others to talk about themselves

Many people fail to make a favorable impression because they don’t listen attentively. They have been so much concerned with what they are good to say next that they do not keep their ears open. They don’t want to listen, they just want to reply. If you want other to like you, then just listen to them.

 

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People who talk only about themselves, think only of themselves. People who only think of themselves are hopelessly uneducated. They are not educated no matter how instructed they may be. To be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.

 

Remember that to be interesting, be interested. Encourage other to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

  1. Talk in terms of other person’s interests.

Just imagine a situation when one of your friends is talking about cricket match but you have no any interest on that, instead you are interested in Football. Do you ever love to listen to that friend? If you really want to make people genuinely interest you, then always do favor of them, what they want to talk and listen about. It will help to create a strong bonding between you. People will be interested in you only when you are interested in them. No matter how good you are in talking about something that the listener doesn’t want to listen to, it has no meaning.

 

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Remember that to interest people on you; always go with the topics they are passionate about.

  1. Make other person feel important and do it sincerely

Everybody wants a feeling of important. Everyone wants to be the center of attraction. So, if you want to make people like you, then make them feel that they are important to you. The life of a person could probably be changed if only someone would make him feel important. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.

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Remember that to make people like you instantly, always make them feel important.

The fifth Habit (7 Habits of Highly Effective people)

Seek First to Understand, then to be understood

One of the habits most effective people have is they seek first to understand. For that, they listen carefully, understand them and later on reply. Communication is the most important skill in life.

The major problem that ordinary people have is that most of them do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. They are ready to reply before they really understand the problem. They judge based on their own perspective but in reality, they have to look from other perspectives if they really want to find the solution.

 

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Remember that satisfied needs do not motivate. It’s only the unsatisfied need that motivates.

The key to good judgment is understanding. By judging first, a person will never fully understand. To understand, you must listen first. When you listen, you learn. Because you really listen, you become influenceable. And being influenceable is the key to influencing others. The more deeply you understand other people, the more you will appreciate them, the more reverent you will feel about them. See life through each other’s life.

Before the problems come up, before you try to evaluate and prescribe, before you try to present your own ideas, seek first to understand.

 

 

The Third Habit (7 Habits of highly effective people)

Along with ”Be Proactive and Begin with an end in mind”, there is a third habit which most of the effective people possess. It is –  Put First Things First

Many of us have things to do on daily basis and we prioritize them based on our priority. But in reality, we have to schedule based on their priority which many effective people does. It’s not what’s our priority but it’s what the priority of the things- the importance of the things. So, always do the things that are important rather than the things that you want to do but are less important.

 

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The ability to manage well doesn’t make much difference if we are not even in the right jungle. Effective management is putting first things first while leadership decides what first things are.

Do you know what is the key reason of a successful person? 

The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do. 

Management is discipline, carrying it out. The challenge is not to manage time but to manage ourselves. Effective people are not problem-minded, they are opportunity minded.

Satisfaction is a function of expectations as well as realization. Frustration is a function of our expectations and expectations are often a reflection of the social mirror rather than our own values and priorities. 80% of the results flow out of 20% of the activities.

Trust is the highest form of human motivation. 

A successful person always has a learning attitude. They learn from everyone, everything and every time. Let people learn from your mistakes or the mistake of others. Point out the potential failure paths what not to do but don’t tell them what to do.